I opened up my theknot.com app today, and was smacked in the face with the reality that our wedding is approaching. Fast. 186 days. In just a few days we will hit the 6 month mark.
Panic is beginning to ensue. There is sooo much left to be done.
Luckily my mom will be in town this weekend and we plan to tackle the to-do list hard.
Back in November my mom, aunt and I drove the 700 kms from Corner Brook to St. John’s for a girls weekend and dress shopping.
We drove in on a Wednesday, with appointments at salons for Thursday morning. I was so confident that finding a dress would be a breeze, that I was mentally planning the other stores (Sephora) I would hit Thursday afternoon.
It was anything but. I didn’t really know what type of a dress I wanted. I just knew that I wanted it to be classy, and elegant, and not like anything any of my friends had had so far. You know, I wanted to be different. Oh, and satin. Definitely satin. I figured I would just “know” when I saw it.
We started the day at The Model Shop where I tried on a bunch of beautiful dresses. The staff was wonderful. And my mom even cried when she saw me in one of the dresses. But I wasn’t ready to “say yes to the dress.” It’s hard not to be a little indecisive in a store that carries so many beautiful dresses.
Next we went to The Bridal Salon. My least favourite place. It appeared tacky as soon as we walked through the door. The walls in the bridal area were bright red. My mom and Aunt were not allowed to look at the dress selection. They had to sit on a hard wooden bench, and weren’t allowed to even stand up and move around while waiting for me (there were signs saying they had to keep seated). The dress selection didn’t seem to be quality (my personal opinion only) and while I was polite and tried on a few dresses, I didn’t liked anything at all. The only positive about the place was that the lady helping me was nice. Oh and heads up Newfoundland brides, you are not allowed to take pictures of dresses you like.
Ever After was up next. It was a cute salon. They didn’t take appointments and when I got to the store there was another girl there trying on dresses. Because the store was small, with just one pedestal and mirror, and side by side dressing rooms, I felt like I was intruding upon her shopping experience. It was so tight that we kept stepping on each other’s dresses when going to and from our dressing rooms. The dress selection was nice, but I didn’t fall in love with anything.
By this point I was beyond frustrated and on the verge of tears.
Did you know that satin dresses are not very popular right now? And did you know that it’s a fabric that can make even the skinniest girls look pudgy? In the past year I’ve gained a bit of weight, and I haven’t been happy with my body. I never dreamed that I would ever be shopping for wedding dresses and feeling bad about myself. It sucked hard to have the type of dresses I anticipated loving, not being very flattering.
After a meltdown and a quick trip to Kathy Evans Bridal (dislike the place so much that I have nothing to say about it) we decided to call it quits for the day and to grab supper and drinks at Montana’s. Because beer and nachos make everything better.
The next day I headed back to the Model Shop with a more open mind, ready to try on every dress in the store. And I pretty much did. By the time I left I had narrowed it down to two dresses. The one my mom loved, and one I had pinned on Pinterest before the trip, but hadn’t seen the day before.
Over the course of the day I thought hard about what I wanted to look like on my wedding day and how I felt in each of the dresses. And yes, a few more tears were shed.
I didn’t get the dress my mom loved, and that was a hard choice to make. I wanted so badly for her to have the same reaction to the dress I chose. She didn’t but that’s okay. The dress she loved was absolutely beautiful, and was totally a “me” dress, but it was lacking va-va-voom and I wanted that.
Of course I have zero intentions of showing you “the one” but have no fear we took pictures of all of the other dresses I tried on.
Planning a wedding can be an amazing, wonderful, fun-filled time. It can also be crazy, hard, frustrating and anxiety inducing.
On a number of occasions I felt like I was drowning in the less than awesome. There is so much to do when planning a wedding. So many things to decide. What theme do you want? What will the colors be? Gold or silver? What venue(s) do you want?
Its so easy to lose track of the all of the good things, for the anxiety to take away from this wonderful time in your life. Don’t let it.
I’ve put together a list of my favorite planning resources that have helped ease some of my stresses, hopefully they will help you too!
Literally everything you need to plan your wedding can be found on The Knot. The website has so much inspiration for brides to be from dresses, to decor, to cakes. It also has some really great tools like a planning checklist, budget planner, guest list planner, and free website builder.
For all of you digital gals out there, this app is great for keeping your notes on the go. To do lists, questions to ask vendors, due dates. You can keep it all in the palm of your hand.
If you’re old school like me, a coiled notebook is the best place to keep all of your lists, thoughts, dreams and plans. I like to tape inspiration pictures in mine.
With an endless supply of inspiration, Pinterest can be a great place to get a lot of ideas. Just try not to get overwhelmed, or try to make everything you see on Pinterest happen. Or your wedding could end up looking like it has multiple personality disorder, or that Pinterest threw up all over it.
Friends and Family
This one can be dangerous, I know. Too many opinions can be a huge problem. But if you have someone you trust, who’s been down this road before, who understands your vision, and who isn’t trying to make your wedding their own, use them. My Matron of Honor, Megan, has been a total life saver through this entire process so far. She helps keep me on track, brings me back to earth when I need to be thinking more realistically, and helps me decide what details are important and which ones are not (read: they all are, I’m basically Bridezilla).
What wedding resources are you finding or did you find helpful?
Its been a hot minute since I’ve done a Wedding Wednesday. So, I figure its a good time for an update. Because you all love reading about my wedding planning. Right? Right!
Alrighty, if we’re being honest not a whooooole lot has been done. Work has been stupidly busy the last few months, and its been hard to make phone calls during business hours, which means that by the time I’m able to call, the places I need to call are closed. Such is life.
But I digress.
We picked a photographer. We’re paying waaay more than we had initially planned, but it was difficult to find a great photographer in our original price range. Since photos are really the only thing from our big day that we will have forever, besides memories of course, we decided to redistribute the money to get photographers that will provide the quality and style of pictures we want. We’re super excited to have Candace and Dru on board for our big day. How could we not be when they take amazing shots like this.
I’ve booked hair and make up for me and my #squad. I decided that I wanted to go to a salon, rather than have people come to my house or a hotel room. I think it will be a little more fun. And a ton less stressful if we aren’t trying to cram a bunch of people into a small space. I looked into a few options, got suggestions and reviews from people I know, and finally settled on Silver Scissors & Emerald Spa.
I bought my dress! Oh man, it was an emotional, stressful, tearful, joyful few days. I’ll tell you more about that later. But no pictures, because everyone who will see it before the wedding has seen it. Basically, I’m showing it to no one. It’ll make it more special I think.
I bought my shoes! These Badgley Mischka’s are perfect. I originally ordered them from Nordstrom in the Berry color, but they do not fit true to size, so they were too small. When I tried to return them for a bigger size, the color was no longer available, so I settled for white. Which is more off white than snow white, so I’m hoping they will look good with my dress.
I picked a bridesmaid dress. Finally. And they’ve been ordered. I’ll tell you all about how much fun that was not as soon as I find the words. I will say though, that I am really happy with the dress I chose, it was just a rough time getting it all figured out.
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Tuxes are rented! We decided to get them from Tip Top Tailers. There aren’t a lot of options around here and Tip Top had a couple really great promotions on. If we rented 5 tuxes, the groom gets his free. And by booking by December 31st we saved $40 per tux. It was really too good to pass up.
I ordered our invitations from Vistaprint. There were a few hiccups along the way, but we are so so happy with how they turned out.
Now that I’ve written it all down, I can see that I’ve done more that it feels like I have. I guess it just feels like I’ve done nothing because there is still so much left to do.
Any tips for a girl who still has decor and cake and flowers to figure out?
JW and I had dinner with them Friday evening at the Crown & Moose. Tons of pub food and beers were consumed. And unfortunately for my dad and JW lots of wedding talk occurred.
Saturday my mom and I decided to visit my city’s only bridal salon. I didn’t have high expectations thankfully, because I didn’t have the bridal experience at all. But the purpose of the visit wasn’t to find a dress but to more or less find out what I was looking for in a dress. Although I had a great time with mom I wasn’t as successful narrowing down a style as I had hoped. We did however determine that some of the dresses with the beautiful backs that I love have strap styles make it look like the dress is swallowing me whole. So there’s that. Pictures were taken, but it turns out my mom is pretty terrible behind the camera.
That evening my aunt and uncle cooked supper and we had a super informal meet and greet of our parents/engagement celebration. It was a wonderful evening and somehow there were no pictures taken, sorry about that.
It was a good weekend, but my mom called on Monday concerned that I wasn’t happy about getting married. Apparently I wasn’t acting like an excited bride-to-be. Let me be clear. I am unbelievably happy about marrying JW, but so many questions were directed my way about the wedding over the weekend, that I guess it was hard for me to hide how overwhelmed I’ve been.
I’ve always picked apart other peoples weddings. Not in a judgmental sort of way (okay maybe a little) but in a way where I took notice of the things I did or didn’t like about them and made mental notes for when my turn came. Because of that I always thought that I knew exactly what I wanted my wedding to be. However since beginning to plan my own big day I’ve come to realize that I don’t actually know what I want, I just know what I don’t want.
1. Church Ceremony
JW isn’t a fan of organized religion and for the most part neither am I. We also come from families who have different religious backgrounds (his is Pentecostal and Salvation Army while mine is Roman Catholic) and our grandmothers are both praying for a wedding to be held in their respective church. Its easier to choose neither than it is to offend either side. Also, having a civil ceremony gives us a lot more control over the things we will or will not include. And even with not having it in a church it will still be a romantic and spiritual event.
2. Outdoor Ceremony
The weather in Newfoundland is predictably unpredictable. It is entirely possible for us to experience all four seasons in one day. I don’t want the stress of worrying about whether or not the weather will cooperate, and dealing with having a Plan B in case it doesn’t. I don’t want to be rushing around buying umbrellas at the last minute, have my guests freeze to death, or have my veil blow away in a nor’wester. Also, both mine and JW’s grandmothers are hard of hearing; an outdoor location would have a lot of background noise which would make it difficult for them to hear the ceremony. I don’t want them to feel isolated during the part of the day that is most important to them, and what is essentially the “wedding”.
3. Photographers Who Don’t Dress Professionally
Few things irritate me more than wedding vendors who show up in leggings and crocks looking like they don’t belong. If I’m trying to achieve elegance on my Big Day, I don’t want the people I’m paying looking like they just left the gym. #sorrynotsorry
4. Candy Bar
I know some people love them and I don’t mean to offend, but around these parts candy bars are incredibly over done. The excitement has worn off them. They can be expensive to prepare for and people usually end up with tons of candy left over. This is not a positive to me, because I will eat them all. #hefferinthemaking
5. Rustic Theme
Again, incredibly over done. I don’t want my wedding to look like the last six weddings my guests attended. Also, as much as I am outdoorsy, rustic weddings just aren’t my thang.
What things would you not want/did you not want your wedding to have?
I don’t even know where to start today. My mind is so full of thoughts. Mostly about the wedding, but also a former coworker just visited my office with their 140lb Great Dane “puppy” and I’ve spent the last 45 minutes stressed the eff out by its presence and nearly vomiting at the sight of its drool. Blech. I have yet to recover, so I am not operating at full capacity.
I could entertain bore you with wedding planning chit chat, but I think I shall save all of that negativity for next Wednesday.
So lets get right to it. Oh Hey, Friday! Here’s some randomness…
1. Megan and I have been bitching all week about the struggle that is finding clothes we like at reasonable prices and what not. Twenty eight is a peculiar age where you feel a little too old to have your entire wardrobe supplied by H&M, Forever 21 and Garage yet you’re just not ready to be shopping at Reitmans with your mother. Its like how do you dress for this age without looking like you’re trying to be a teenager, yet not look like your 50. Anyways, then we found this video and it is everything. I’d embed it for you, but Tumblr/Blogger won’t let me.
2. This child is freaking adorable.
3.This is basically my life right now. Okay, so not exactly my life, but I do wake up when my fiance climbs out of bed at 3am.
4. ALLLLL of my shows will be back next week and JW will be lucky to get his hand on the remote at all. Nashville, Grey’s Anatomy, Scandal, How to Get Away with Murder. They will all be watched. Time to stock up on the chocolate and wine!
5. About that chocolate. I’m supposed to be Shedding for the Wedding, or Shredding for the Wedding? Or is it Sweating for the Wedding? Either way, I’m supposed to be losin’ inches and ell bees. Chocolate is likely not going to help me do that. So I guess I’ll start dieting the Monday after this Monday?
And that all I got, people. That all I got. TGIF
It’s the freakin’ weekend, baby, I hope you have you some fun!
My very first Wedding Wednesday and I almost missed it! But its only 10:47 here, so technically we’re good, even if I made it in just under the wire.
I’ve been engaged for a grand total of 12 days and I’m already overwhelmed with the planning. People, it. is. hard. Seriously, I know you’re skeptical, I was too when I read this post of Juliette’s, but holy crap guys, there’s just so much to do and figure out.
JW and I have decided that we want to get married next summer. And did you know that 12 months is considered a short engagement? Because I did not. And I’ve always been like, “I’m definitely going to need at least 12 months to plan,” but in the back of mind totally thought a full year would be lots of time. Think again friends. Think again.
Venues, djs and photographers book up super fast around these parts so I have ZERO time to waste. And I’m totally picky about what vendors I’m willing to work with, and no time to really be so picky, yet I am terribly indecisive.
Guys there are just so many decisions to make. And I don’t want to make them, because what if I choose wrong? They say you can’t choose wrong, but you know you totally can. I want a wedding that super elegant and super fun and super romantic. I want to wow people. I want them to talk about how beautiful it was and how much they enjoyed themselves. I want to blow it out of the water. So yeah, I need to not choose wrong.
And basically I’ve been dealing with my stress by eating all the candy and indulging in the occasional beverage because do you know how hard it is to obsess about your wedding and spend 24/7 Pinteresting but actually avoid any real planning? The struggle is real my friends. The. Struggle. Is. Real.