Life is Beautiful

In high school (Go Dorsets!) most of my friends were guys. Not because I was a skank (that came later in life), or because I wanted to avoid girl drama, but simply because I seemed to have a lot more in common with Adam, Robin and Jeremy than I did with most girls, and I genuinely enjoyed the time I spent with them. As great as those friendships were, and they were truly great (Adam and I are still best friends, and well Jeremy, we’ve talked about him around these parts before), I longed for the days when I would have great girl friends a la Sex and the City.

Luckily for me, somewhere around my 20th year on the planet and my second year in Alberta, I met my Charlotte and Samantha (obviously I’m Carrie, no one wants to be Miranda, that bitch was a mess).

While I may have skipped the whole college thing, I most certainly did not skip the boozing. Clearly.

Who knew that a tipsy Halloween night would lead me to finding the sisters I never had but always wanted.

I am truly blessed to have Sarah and Megan in my life, and I am so very much thankful that our friendships have lasted no matter the distance between us.

A week from today I am getting on a plane to fly 6000kms to be reunited with them, if only for a short while, and I can hardly wait.

And now to honor to our beautiful friendship, a song we drunkenly moved to danced to many many times.

Vacation get at me!

PS. For a girl who loves photoshopping, it was seriously difficult to post those pictures.

Let’s Get Real

Its been too long since I’ve participated in a link-up, and I have no good excuse, except for the general lack of time I’ve had to put together any kind of post with slightly decent quality. I’ve been wanting to hang out with all the cool kids and link up with Kathy for quite some time now, because Humpday Confessions is a pretty great prompt, and because lets face it, its always fun to read the confessions of your favorite bloggers.

So, lets do this thing!

Vodka and Soda

I confess…

– that it is as real struggle to keep my Pepsi intake at one can or less per day.

– that I have been sleeping in on purpose every day for nearly a month and it has got to stop.
– that I was 100% determined to dislike Orange is the New Black. But, I just couldn’t, it is awesome. 
– that I have not washed my hair for three days. Not because its the healthy thing to do, but because I am lazy.

– I’ve been crafting and using a lot of glitter lately. Even after showering I’ve still been finding little pieces of sparkle in every nook and cranny of my body. Every.

– that I am seriously looking forward to my bff’s wedding.
– also that I’m looking forward to it being over so that I can start spending my money on other things.
– that the “other things” I want to spend my money on is refinishing patio chairs that I picked up on the side of the road a few years ago.
– that someday’s I am a crappy manager because I hate having to reprimand people. Conflict avoidance and all that jazz.

– that I photoshop/edit/filter almost every photo of myself. I remove the bags under my eyes, and whiten my teeth. Even on iPhone pictures.

– that my biggest issue with SnapChat is that I can’t do the above.

– that I am seriously rotted that it seems like the local Cineplex will not be getting The Fault in Our Stars any time soon, and I’m not ashamed to admit it. Oh the joys of living in a tiny city.
– that I am still binge watching Netflix. In the last month I’ve watched all the seasons of Orange is the New Black, the last few seasons of Dawson’s Creek, and now I’m on to rewatching Nashville.

– that yesterday I thought it was a good idea to join POF. I changed my mind 30 seconds later, but it happened…I have hit a new low.

– that I seriously enjoyed writing this post making this list. And I shall do so again next week.

And now its your turn! Head on over to Vodka and Soda to play along.

Glitter Rock

Sarah and I – 2010

I’ve spent the last 15 minutes or so picking the glitter and modge podge off my nails from last nights crafting session. I’ve got just 14 days left to get everything ready for Sarah’s bachelorette party, and its crunch time.

I keep feeling like I’m forgetting something, even though I have dozen’s of lists made. I’m a bit of a planner you see. The day of the bachelorette, DJ and I are going to have maybe three hours to pull the whole thing together, and the only way I can see us getting it done and having it meet my super high expectations is to have every single detail planned and prepared for.

When it comes to hosting parties, I like to plan them, prepare for them, and have them set up so that they basically run themselves once they start. I want to partake in the party, not have to putter around making sure everything is getting done. I guess that’s why I have gone so far as to put together a playlist for the evening. Plug in the iPod, hit play, and that’s one less thing to have to work about for the rest of the night.

And since its #BackThatAzzUp Friday, what better day than now to share it with all of you.

It’s a pretty random list, quite a few different artists and genres. Basically the only requirement for a song to make the list is for it to be decently upbeat and fun to listen to. And obviously it isn’t complete yet, I’m gonna need a lot more songs for it to last all night.
What songs would you add to the playlist?

Personal Growth is a Fascinating Thing

I sometimes find it difficult to tell my family about some of the side projects I have outside of my real job. I suppose some of its because if I’m not successful, then no one ever has to know about it, but also perhaps because I have a terribly frustrating habit of not following through. I get super passionate about things for a week or two, maybe even a month, and then I just let it all fall by the wayside. So I guess I hesitate to tell people about my new endeavors because I’m nervous that they wont be as excited as I am about it because they know about my history with these sorts of things.

My family doesn’t know about this blog, (partially because of the occasional PG13 content, I’ll admit), until last weekend they didn’t know about my little Etsy venture, Kathryn Lavers Design. But I was so excited about how well it was flourishing that I couldn`t help but share it with them. And once again they showed me that I don`t have to keep these things to myself. That they support me in every new thing that I try.

My mom was proud and asked me a bunch of questions about it, I`m sure she`s tried to navigate Etsy to find it already. And my Aunt (the wise one) told me that she always knew I`d do something like this eventually.

This morning she sent me an email full of quotes she thought I could use in my designs. I don`t know if I will, but some of them were truly inspirational, and I have no doubt that they will help me more than she ever intended.

Here are some of my favorites.

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.” – Marcus Aurelius

“You are the way you are because that’s the way you want to be. If you really wanted to be different, you would be in the process of changing right now.” – Fred Smith

“Things do not change; we change.”  – Henry David Thoreau
“What comes, is called.”  – Ki Longfellow

“All things are possible to him who believes.” [Mark 9:23]

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” – E.E. Cummings

“The things that we love tell us what we are.” – St. Thomas Aquinas

“Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence. – Helen Keller`

“Courage is the power to let go of the familiar.” – Raymond Lindquist

“You can’t cross a sea by merely staring into the water.” – Rabindranath Tagore
Do you have any favorite inspirational quotes?

Why I Choose to Be Single

Its no secret around these parts that there is no significant manfriend in my life right now and with the exception of the four week blip that was J, there hasn’t been one for quite some time, because I choose for it to be that way.

I’ll admit it can be pretty lonely. There are nights I wish I had someone to go to dinner with, or curl up on the couch and watch a movie with. It would be nice to have someone to look forward to coming home to after work, someone to cook supper for. I wouldn’t complain about having someone  to have adventures with that were worthy of blogging about, or at least to take pictures of me for the blog. And on those mornings I have to get up super early to take care of the snow in my driveway, it would be really really convenient to have a guy around.With that said I don’t question my choice to be single.

My aunt once told me that you can’t find Mr. Right when you’re with Mr. Wrong. At the time that she said it I’m pretty sure I rolled my eyes, because she has a thing for cheesy lines, and I liked to blow off her positive thinking, inspirational, motivational mumbo jumbo. And because, how do you know he’s not Mr. Right unless you date him? duh.

Looking back, I guess I just wasn’t mature enough then to truly understand what she was saying. At the time I was in a pretty serious relationship with E, and although I knew it was going nowhere, that the relationship was more of comfort and convenience, I wasn’t ready to admit that to myself or my family or the world. And if I’m being completely honest, I just couldn’t seem to get up the nerve to break up with him. Instead, I emotionally checked out of the relationship and put myself (and E) through more than six months of unhappiness before we finally broke up.

Even after I did that I didn’t realize that during those last few months of knowing I was with Mr. Wrong and of not being able to call it quits, I had been unavailable to any potential Mr. Right’s that came along. It took me moving and falling into another relationship that deep down I knew was going nowhere, and wasting another year of my life to realize what my aunt had tried to tell me. Its better to be single than it is to be with someone who’s wrong for you just for the sake of having someone. Because when you’re with Mr. Wrong you’re unavailable and not leaving yourself open for the possibility of finding Mr. Right.

In the last 24 months I haven’t really met anyone I can even imagine the possibility of a future with. So, I’ve decided not to settle and not to date someone because I get lonely sometimes. When a potential Mr. Right comes along, I want to be able to pursue the possibility.

Adventures on the Internet

One of the local radio stations, OZFM, does this bit called Adventures on the Internet every morning where they share something wacky that they found online. I’ve always enjoyed their morning show, particularly that part of it, cause it makes me chuckle.  I’ve been wanting to share some of the fun stuff I’ve found on the web with all of you, and then one day it dawned on me, and I said to myself, “Adventures on the Internet, thats a cool title, and it fits the blog, and omg, you now have something to name your Saturday posts.” And there you have it, I stole the title of today’s post, and the title of many more Saturday posts to come.

And don’t you love run-on sentences, cause I do.

So, without further ado I present…

This guy who can dance better than me.

This insane display of the power of make up that reminds me of my inadequate skill in that area.

What fun, crazy, awesome stuff have you found online lately?

Get The Job: Volume 1

Being the manager of a small company has some distinct challenges. As the GM of a company that shall not be named I am regularly faced with the challenge of having to wear many different hats. No, I don’t mean literal hats, I mean that I fill many different roles. On any given day I am a manager, a purchaser, and a saleswoman. I am a one girl human resource department, a safety coordinator, a recruiter, a hirer, and a firer.

Most days the workload and stress of being pulled in eleventy billion directions is enough to make me seriously contemplate choosing welfare over employment, except not really, but I fight through it because I am learning a lot, like a lot a lot. I’m learning about myself, about business, about the world, and when it comes right down to it, I am thankful for the opportunity to grow.

A few months ago Sarah over at Venus Trapped in Mars did a post about nailing an interview and it inspired me to share with all of you some of the things I’ve learned since my promotion, to impart a little wisdom if you will, to help you get the job you want.

If the job ad says “no phone calls or drop-ins,” do not call or drop in.
When I run a job ad, and an applicant phones or comes to my office, their resume automatically goes into the “no” pile, regardless of how great they are. I appreciate drive and persistence but if you can’t read or follow simple instructions, I’m not interested.

Spell check is your best friend.
No matter what position I am hiring for if you have poor grammar and spelling skills then I am not interested. If you can’t put in the extra effort to make sure your email, cover letter, and resume are error free then I’m not interested. Don’t be careless people or you’ll get written off before you’re even looked at.

When you go to an interview, look your best.
I do believe in dressing for the job you want, but there is a limit. If you want a job as a welder or something like that, don’t dress like you’re a welder. Dress like you’re hoping to work in an office. In other words, dress professionally. I’m cool with you wearing jeans (not ripped), if you wear a nice shirt to go with it. Don’t wear yoga pants, or hoodies, or sneakers. I don’t want to see your Choko winter jacket or your Uggs. I do judge you harshly on the way you look. If you take your appearance seriously, I will take you seriously.

Brush your hair, brush your teeth, and wash your face.
You would think that it would go without saying, but sadly that isn’t always the case.

Be prepared to answer questions that don’t directly apply to the position you are interviewing for.
I regularly ask the people I’m interviewing questions like:
    – Tell me about a time you failed at something. What did you learn and how did you overcome it?
    – Give me an example of a time you did something wrong. How did you handle it?
    – Have you ever been on a team where someone was not pulling their own weight? How did you handle it?
    – Give me an example of a time that you felt you went above and beyond the call of duty at work.

Never tell an interviewer that you have no weaknesses or that you’ve never failed at something.
It isn’t true. You do have weaknesses and you have failed. If you say otherwise, you’re either blatantly lying, or you are completely un-self-aware. Both are qualities I am not interested in in an employee.

If you have to wait to be called in to your interview do not “play” or talk on your cellphone.
Cells are often frowned upon in the workplace. Don’t be someone who appears to be addicted to their smartphone. It makes your potential employer question whether or not it will be an issue in the future.

I’m no expert on the subject, I won’t even pretend to be, but I can tell you that people who “break the rules” I’ve shared with you, well they annoy the crap out of me, and I’m pretty sure that I’m not the only recruiter/interviewer/hirer who feels that way. And I can’t promise that if you follow my tips that you will get the job, but you will certainly position yourself better to get it.

Do you have any tips to share with our job seeking friends out there?

Somethin’ About Sunshine

I am having the worst week. Seriously. The. Worst. I can’t even begin to explain why. And I’m sure you all don’t really want me to. Its a long and boring and business related story. And I’m so over it.

And why does my computer’s keyboard keep switching to French??

Moving on, I feel like I’ve been super negative and whiny around these parts lately, you know, when I even bother to show up for class, and I’m really trying not to do that. So here are a few pictures from my wonderful weekend. We’ll get back on track tomorrow. Promise.

Jeans: American Eagle, Tee: Target, Wedges: Aldo
I spent a few hours Saturday sitting on a bench at the mall catching up with my long lost friend Monica. It was wonderful and far to brief. Unfortunately the only picture I took was of my clothes, my new favorite Saturday go to outfit.
There’s nothing I love more than being able to spend my days stretched out on a lawn chair, soaking up the sun, reading magazines, writing blog posts, drinking a cold one and painting my nails.
Jeans: American Eagle, Tee: Target, Blazer: Vero Moda, Belt: Roxy, Necklace: Suzy Shier
Saturday evening was spent celebrating my cousins very belated birthday, and because I was super lazy I just tossed a blazer and some jewelry on with my outfit from earlier.
And Sunday was spent once again, flaked out on my lawn chair working on my tan so that I’m not the palest bridesmaid in the world next month.