Today I want to talk about Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha. The women who taught me so much about friendship, love, life, sex and shoes.
I was a little late discovering the series, but I was obsessed immediately. My friends and I identified ourselves as the characters we closest resembled (I was Carrie, duh), we had SATC marathons, did the weekend meal thing, and of course, bought the movie package that came with a tshirt (I still have and wear mine).
Those fabulous ladies bestowed some brilliant life lessons on me and I’m here today to share them with you. You’re so welcome, in advance.
I know it should go without saying, but you wouldn’t believe the number of women who can’t wrap their minds around the concept of hoes before bros. The fabulous foursome never let the men in their lives interfere with their friendship. Of course there was the occasional squabble about douche bag exes, namely Big. But they never lasted long because the friendship always came first.
Which leads us to always being honest with your girls, even when the truth isn’t easy. Sometimes your friends really need to be told when the dude in their life is a loser. Or when they are acting a little bit pathetic over a guy. Or even when they need to spend less time with the Rabbit, ahem Charlotte.
Choose the nice guy, for the love of God, choose the nice guy. I know it didn’t work out this way in the movies, but lets get real, this is where the ball was dropped. Carrie should have chosen Aidan. The nice guy won’t have you as his mistress, or let you get caught in his apartment by his wife. The nice guy doesn’t stand you up at your own wedding. No, the nice guy forgives your indiscretions, buys the apartment next to yours, and refinishes your floors.
Sometimes you just need to embrace your singleness. Spend time with the girls, enjoy being able to do the things you love whenever it suits you. And use the space to find yourself. One of the wisest things Carrie ever said was, “the most exciting, challenging, and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”
Lastly, the most important thing you should take away from this post is that pre-marital sex is a good thing. You can’t tell if a guy has issues “getting it up” just by looking at him. So don’t marry him without taking him for a test drive first. Otherwise you run the risk of finding yourself your very own Trey McDougall.
I know, so much wisdom for one post. I told you you’d be thanking me.
Have a fabulous day!